Just keep the secrets to yourself. It feels you safe, free from embarrassment and stays out of trouble. Sharing the secrets to somebody may put your safety in jeopardy, and if not properly exercise with caution may result in miserable endings. Further, once the secrets are exposed, the feeling of embarrassment to friends and relatives during any social activities is likely the consequences. Worst, if the secrets are shared to some people that could not be trusted, it will spread exponentially like virus, and it sparks trouble and ended in an unhappy ending and possible retaliation. Whether the secrets are yours or shared with your friends, you always feel better and safer by not sharing it to anyone. It is better to conceal the secrets to yourself.
Keep your mouth shut
Keep the secrets to yourself for your personal safety. There are times in our life that secrecy seems the only path of least resistance of our existence. Exposing the secrets may lead to a potential conflict and take a terrible toll in our life. For instance, in order to avoid trouble and for her own safety, a grandmother revealed on her deathbed of a child she had out of wedlock. The same was true to an actress with an illicit love affair with the husband of her best friend was known only in her dying days. It would be difficult for a mother to reveal that one of her siblings that clearly did not look like the rest of her family that he is not part of the biological family. After her husband had died, she did not share with others about this child even to her best friends. In most cases, forging school results, engaging in witchcraft ceremonies and sex related activities are secrets usually held for a lifetime.
Gossips and rumors-exposing the secrets
Keeping the secrets to yourself is one way to avoid embarrassment. Our world is very much bigger than we think. We do not know that some of our best friend may spread the dark secret to somebody with malicious intent and may damage our reputation. That was the case of a former Justice Secretary who shared her secrets to her lover on how to raise millions of pesos for her campaign to get a senatorial seat. At the end, it was her lover who is also her security aide and alleged bagman, came as witness during a court hearing. Her world turned upside down, and she landed to a prison cell. Apart from embarrassment, exposed secrets are annoying and frustrating. Oftentimes, it is exaggerated and misinterpreted such that it always negatively portrays the person’s personality and character. Sometimes, you realized that some of your friends in a company was a big mouth that they cannot keep things to themselves. In order to prevent embarrassment, remain the secrets to yourself.
By keeping the secrets to yourself, you are averting troubles. It is our human nature that we commit mistakes. It is a part of our life. Because her husband/partner could no longer give her enjoyment of several years due to health problems, she sometimes goes out for massage and finds somebody to comfort her problems. My friend, a Math professor confided to me that his biggest secret is that he is a convicted felon, had been arrested once for a sexual offends and twice against driving under the influence of alcohol. Because of these, he spent 6 months behind bars as sentence. He is a member to a professional organization that would boot him immediately if anyone would expose his conviction, and he still fears that someone may discover what he is hiding. Secrets involving sexless marriage, extramarital affairs, sex adventure, and sexuality often hide a sense of shame and when revealed it can be transformed as rumors. It is shocking and upsetting if one fine day you discover out your friend is spreading your shameful secret that started as rumors. It really hurts and breaks relationships once it began to escalate. So, in order to prevent these troubles, keep the secrets to yourself.
Life is like a sunset at its best…tranquility of life when secret is not exposed
No matter how careful and cautious you are, if the secrets are exposed it has devastating impacts on any relationships. Exposing the secrets can interfere with any relationship and lurking your life into trouble. As negative emotion begins to flow, it may result to an ugly ending. Your exposed secrets may destroy you, family, friends, and relationship. It has a devastating impact on marriages that ended in divorces, separation and broken homes. In our world today where staying out of any formed into trouble is very much advisable, one sure way of effectively achieving is by keeping the secrets to ourselves.
Keeping some of your life secrets does better than harm. If sharing remains the latter option, think it twice before you do it with selective people. Jesus, on his transfiguration with Elijah and Moses, commanded Peter and James and his brother John not to inform anyone what they had just seen up high in the mountain. The Bible narrated the event as follows.
5 Peter was still speaking when a bright cloud covered them in its shadow, and a voice from the cloud said, “This is my Son, the Beloved, my Chosen One. Listen to him.” 6 On hearing the voice, the disciples fell to the ground, full of fear. 7 But Jesus came, touched them and said, “Stand up, do not be afraid.” 8 When they raised their eyes, they no longer saw anyone except Jesus. 9 And as they came down the mountain, Jesus commanded them not to tell anyone what they had just seen, until the Son of Man be raised from the dead. Matthew 17: 1-9
There are secrets that must always be kept secret. This is so because telling the world about them — however much you share and care — nothing but will not bear you any good. Secrets are powerful but by keeping the secrets to yourself it feels you safe, free from embarrassment, and stay out of trouble.
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